Friday, January 24, 2014
Our Soon-to-be Normal
Posted by ~Bekah
The more I think about adding a life to our little family, the more excited I become. I remember feeling terrified and nervous at this point (I'm almost 35 weeks w/ Rhett now) of the unknown, and how our lives would change. Now, I semi-know what to expect w/ a newborn, given each child and baby is different. I know sleep will be a thing of the past, which hasn't really been "present" since Shelby arrived anyway, we will be late to things, we will have to pack a million items anytime we go anywhere, we'll have to be flexible, things won't always go as planned and most the time won't come close, there will be meltdowns by ALL OF US and sometimes all at the same time, and life will never be the same. This doesn't scare me like it did when we were waiting for Shelby to come. The thing that scares me this time is how Shelby's life will change. THAT scares me. I know she's going to be a fabulous big sister and HUGE help, but I want her to continue to feel like the princess she is and to have attention that she needs and is used to. I KNOW that will change and her attention she'll receive will just be in a different way. I'm fearful that she will be overcome w/ feeling left-out by me having to devote so much time to Rhett or like she doesn't matter anymore now that he's here. I am racking my brain to come up with ways to keep her as my precious baby and so far, I think it's going to be a challenge but manageable. I'm a planner...plain and simple...that's what I do. Now, whether it's completely followed through, that happens, but I am a planner and it gives me peace and comfort so bear with me...LOL...
On the day we are scheduled to have Rhett, I want JUST Josh and Shelby in the recovery room w/ me and Rhett. I want time w/ just our new little family and let Shelby be in control of what goes on then. I want her to be the first person outside of me and Josh to hold Rhett; he is, after all, HER little brother, and I want their bond to begin right away, just as I want the bond Rhett and I to have begin right away as well. I want peace and quiet w/ just us for a while...no outside visitors til later...even our families... I feel this is important for Shelby to get to know this new little person who will be forever in our lives that I've felt grow, kick, roll, jab and thrive inside me. I worry about this and how our families will react since this is the "first grandson" and everyone will want to soak him up. I didn't have a plan w/ shelby and I still remember feeling deprived of time with just Josh and Shelby. I didn't get that. I felt bombarded and invaded almost by family and people holding her. Privacy, in these initial moments, is something I really want this time. On that note, when it comes to feeding Rhett, I will be breastfeeding and I want that to be private as well. It was not with Shelby and it was very uncomfortable for me. I am a pretty open book but there are somethings I like to keep to myself and not open to the world, and that's one of them. Again, ONLY Josh and Shelby should be sharing these moments w/ me. I've been very open w/ Shelby in this area and it's something she is interested in being apart of and I want her to be. I want her to be my little helper and she will be good at that.
Just pray for me... pregnancy hormones are over taking me!